Just because your past is this or that does not mean that your future will be the same. They are not correlated. Unless of course you think it so. Because whatever you think you are, you become. Do not buy into the idea that you can never change yourself for the better, that you are a prisoner of your past. Indeed what you cannot change is your past but your future, that is an unblemished piece of blank canvas. Your decisions and actions from here on will depict what your future will look alike. So stop dwelling in your past. Let it go. Whatever it is, it is in your past. Do not let it control your future. Decide how your future will look like. Make it the best you can, and then take the necessary actions towards it. Keep your focus on the future and work very hard.
We are all here in this world to contribute something to it. To add to it. To make it better. The vision for what you want to see in this world is inspired to you as both a gift and a responsibility. It is up to you to decide how you are going to go about it but make no mistake, there is a reason why you were chosen to have it and not someone else. In all your imperfections, you are best equipped to carry out the task. However, if you do not act upon it, there will always be someone else to take on the task. The world might probably have to wait for decades but that person will appear. Not everyone would be able to understand your vision at the beginning. You might have to work hard at it alone for a very long time but if you have faith in your vision and what it can do to enrich the world around you, then keep at it.
We often find ourselves trapped in the prism of two minds. And that has in more ways than one hinder our growth as a person. It is perfectly okay to be of polar opposites. You can be both brilliant and clueless. Happy and sad. Rich and poor. There are too many facets in our lives to be great at all things. So acknowledge the areas that you are great at as well as the ones you might need some help with. No one would think less of you if you are not brilliant at everything. You would actually gain respect for owning up to your shortcomings because the unspoken not so secret is that we all have areas in our lives that we are not great at, no matter how perfect our lives might seem on the outside. So chill, because the only one keeping score is you.
Most people have mastered the art of dodging and procrastinating. While it may come useful in certain situations, the phrase “I don’t know”, often given when asked about a question that one wants to avoid addressing at that particular moment is a convenient excuse to not work on it now. There is a difference between not knowing and not wanting to deal with a situation. When used in the former sense, it allows growth to take place. However, doing so in the latter context impedes it. There is only so long that one can run from facing a situation head on. Sooner or later, it will come. Rather than letting the thought of facing it control you, take charge by confronting it head on.
We all have got a limited amount of time in this world. It is up to us to decide how are we going to make the best use of it. While life can sometimes be unpredictable, it usually follows a pattern of sorts. The accumulated result of the choices we make is the evidence of the life we have led. Therefore a certain amount of planning is necessary especially if you have a goal or dream. It does not need to be very detailed, as long as you have an idea of the direction that you intend to take, that should be good enough. However, more details are indeed helpful. Once you have got them very clear, realise that it is important to also be flexible in your approach in carrying out the plan. Not everything will happen accordingly but if you fail to plan, you essentially plan to fail.
Whatever was in your past has occurred and there is nothing that you can do to change that simple fact. The sooner you accept it, the better it will be for you. A lot of people like to dwell in the past, thinking how and what they could have done better only to make themselves feel worser than ever. You need to realise that what matters right now, in this instance is your decision of how to move forward. Are you going to be like most who move forward constantly thinking about the past or you going to let the past remain where it rightfully belongs – in the past – and focus on what you can do better in the future? The power has always been in your hands, you were just too consumed in your past to see that.
It is important to remember that in the spirit of working towards your dream, that you celebrate your micro wins as they come along the way. They serve as your pit stops to remind you that you are getting closer to what you have set out for. Your intended destination is just right ahead. You just need to hang in there a little longer. Celebrating your micro wins fuels and lifts you up when you are feeling down. It is that energy booster that ramps your engine up again to get back in the game when an obstacle in front of you seems too big to handle in that particular moment when you simply needed to level up. Remind yourself that you got this. Your micro wins are prove that you can, and that you will get through it, eventually.