Ever felt like you have not yet progress enough despite putting in your best effort? How does that make you feel?
The general reply when asked the question would be to keep on smiling but in their hearts, they’ll tell themselves that they are done.
Climbing to the top requires you to keep placing one hand above the other rail till you reach the final one. For those who just started climbing, that would seem quite daunting, especially when they look up and see how many more they still need to go.
Searching for ways or strategies to success is quite easy. Sticking with it is a whole other story.
Imagine a person who wants to lose weight so he runs every morning for five days consecutively, eats right and gets plenty of rest. However, when he looks into the mirror, he did not see any change or perhaps just one that is too minor to merit any cause for celebration.
What would you do in his situation? Honestly.
The road to success is often times a lonely one. However, as social creatures, we need and value that personal connection with others. Now, with the internet, it has created many opportunities to stay in touch or connect with new people.
Choosing the right group of people to be around with can play a significant role in your journey. When you are on this special path to success, the majority will tend to have mixed feelings about it. In the beginning, sometimes people who you thought might have your back will perhaps be the least supportive.
Please don’t leave them just because they do not share your pursuits and aspirations. In many cases, they are simply concerned about your well being and want only the best for you, according to what they know.
This is where being with the ‘right’ company of people makes a huge difference. The ones that inspire, motivate, push or pull you up are the ones to keep close. What this does is that it will psychologically drive you up along the path to your success.
If there are no one you have in your contact list that falls into this category, this is where a little creativity and effort are needed. Sources such as books, audios and videos of the people that you aspire to be as successful as or those who can help you attain that goal are easily accessible, especially in this day and age. What you need to do, is just search for these people and spend time with/on them.
Personally, I make a conscious effort to either read, listen or watch them daily and I have to say that it does give me the extra edge and a strong sense of self-belief to continue on my journey despite any kind of feedbacks I received from people in my list of contacts.
Who you spend most of your time with will have an influence on you. The choice is yours to make.
The value of time is often forgotten and regarded as an entity that merits no proper consideration. I mean, who buys time, right?
Those who place an insurmountable value on time understands that it is an essential ingredient to whip out that desired outcome. If you truly want to be successful, you have to master time.
Successful people are willing to invest whatever is in their capacity to ‘buy’ time. Either freeing up their schedules for more important events by employing extra help, utilising technology to automate procedures or simply read and learn from an expert about a topic, say cooking, rather than going into the kitchen with no knowledge or experience and ending up literally, cooking up a storm.
I know from first hand experience that mastering time is no easy feat. A little technique that I use to assist me in that area is to give myself a daily schedule – from the time I wake up to when I hit the sack.
Imagine you are a star, indeed you are in your own reality show, and you have this annoying personal assistant who keeps pestering you to hurry up and not be late. Now you might not have the ability to do that but this comes pretty close.
I’ll be the first one to admit, that I am a work in progress in this area. Slipped up couple of times but even so, this habit of scheduling my time has given me the ability to ‘buy’ time as I became more aware of where I have spent it and what could be done to improve my situation.
If time is a currency, how would you spend it?
Sometimes to get what we want, we need to do things that we don’t want. Believe me, it is one of the most challenging things to do but once you are able to, you are one step closer to success.
In many cases, the things that are not good for us, are the ones that we want and gladly do.
Who doesn’t love to sleep in on a fine morning instead of going to work and worst, fit in a morning run prior to that; go to their favourite fast food chain and get one of those yummy looking burgers (at least in the adverts) instead of eating healthy and often uninspiring looking meals; have a luscious sweet vanilla ice cream on a sunny day or my personal favourite, feasting on crispy and juicy fried chickens marinated in the most aromatic spices and flavours.
This is where the constant need to remind yourself of your aspirations comes in. Ours would differ in some or many cases but we all have a few of those.
What I would like to simply remind myself and perhaps yourself who are reading this is – to reach that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow requires the need to do things that we don’t necessarily want to.
The path to success oftentimes does need a little bit of that stubborn gene. This innate ability that exists in each of us is a powerful tool that if use appropriately will give someone that extra edge needed to achieve what he or she desires.
You might find yourself in situations where you have to push through or even go against conventional wisdom, rules and society expectations. At this juncture, some would attribute it to sheer determination or strong willpower to persevere but I simply like to call it measured stubbornness.
This powerful tool is like a double-edged sword that can win you battles or end your life. Figuratively speaking to a certain extent that is.
As you might have noticed, successful people appears to be ‘cut from a different cloth’. If you were to look closely enough, you will find that this trait of measured stubbornness is more pronounced in them.
Now, most of us have been brought up in the ‘traits and personality’ department where being stubborn is frequently shunned upon. Society has effectively associate stubborness as improper behaviour.
I don’t condone sheer stubbornness where the outcomes are not considered or weighed upon but imagine what could happen when you have done the necessary research in something and you strongly belief that it could work out and you take action in it despite what the naysayers, even if it is from people that you care about, telling you otherwise.
Herein lies the crux of the matter.
You stand to gain 0% chance in achieving whatever success that you want if you do not wake up that stubborn gene in you and give it your best shot, with proper measure having taken that is.
The way it works in this world is that life goes on in circles. What we give, we get. Might not sometime appear as how we would like it to, but it comes back in ways that we may or may not realise.
How you treat others is crucially important. The people that we come into contact with, be it physically or through cyberspace, can have a future impact in our lives. And sometimes it can be pretty huge.
The person we think can be of no help to us whatsoever, could be the most important one at a later situation. Some might find this ridiculous but I have experienced it first hand on many counts where I made a silent prayer of gratitude for having treated the respective person well.
Always be good to people, there’s no reason not to.
When looking at the successful people we see on the screens, rags of magazines or even the ones around us, bear in mind these two simple facts.
- They are human beings, just like you and I.
- They have the same amount of time as the rest of us. No more. No less.
You might find these too trivial to give it any merit, but they are the gold mine. By acknowledging these two simple facts, we remove the ‘excuses’ that we tell ourselves why we can’t achieve what those people have.
Some pundits might attribute the success to looks, money, voice, brain and even luck, but who are we kidding.
Aren’t there success stories where the person does not have the looks, the money, the voice and the other stuffs that we put forth to avoid the all-important fact of the matter that differentiates us from them?
They put in the work. They do what most won’t.
They start their morning early. They put their running shoes on despite having little sleep. They consciously select what food they put into their bodies. They make the tough calls. They get back up again as soon as they fall.
Perhaps, next time, when you ever feel like giving up or skipping a workout or do anything that takes you off the path to your success, you need to shake yourselves up and remember to:
DO WHAT OTHERS WON’T.