We all have got a limited amount of time in this world. It is up to us to decide how are we going to make the best use of it. While life can sometimes be unpredictable, it usually follows a pattern of sorts. The accumulated result of the choices we make is the evidence of the life we have led. Therefore a certain amount of planning is necessary especially if you have a goal or dream. It does not need to be very detailed, as long as you have an idea of the direction that you intend to take, that should be good enough. However, more details are indeed helpful. Once you have got them very clear, realise that it is important to also be flexible in your approach in carrying out the plan. Not everything will happen accordingly but if you fail to plan, you essentially plan to fail.
Whatever was in your past has occurred and there is nothing that you can do to change that simple fact. The sooner you accept it, the better it will be for you. A lot of people like to dwell in the past, thinking how and what they could have done better only to make themselves feel worser than ever. You need to realise that what matters right now, in this instance is your decision of how to move forward. Are you going to be like most who move forward constantly thinking about the past or you going to let the past remain where it rightfully belongs – in the past – and focus on what you can do better in the future? The power has always been in your hands, you were just too consumed in your past to see that.
In order to achieve what you want, your dreams and goals, you need to commit. That means you need to do the things that you do not really need to. The things that if you did not do, will not threaten your well-being and livelihood, but if you do them, you will get closer to what you desire. It is up to you to make that commitment. That you will make the move from optional to non-negotiable. That you will wake up early in the morning and work on yourself. That you will go to the gym and give it your all even though people say that you are already looking great as you are. The reason you still do them anyway is not because it is not true, but because you have a different set of standards. Not that you are ungrateful but you believe that you can do more, that you deserve more. That is why it may be optional to some, but to you, what you do is simply non-negotiable.
If you are the type of person who needs to have people around you going through the same things as you are, have them like you and sing your praises, then be prepared to have what they have, which most likely may not be what you want. There is no other way around it. If you take on the path that everyone takes, you will have what they have, with perhaps a slight difference. But if you wish to have something that very few people have, you need to be prepared for a lonely journey ahead. Sure, there will be others doing something similar around the globe, working insanely hard to achieve their dreams, but most of the time, you are on your own. People around you might not understand you, they might even have meetings about you. But if you are serious about becoming who you are meant to be, then forge right ahead on your path, however lonely it might seem. People may or may not come around. That is okay. But what matters in the end, is that you have lived out your truth.
If you want to get to the bottom of things, you need to be prepared. Be prepared for the cold hard truth. And yes, sometimes it does stink too. You need to realise that until you uncover the underlying truth to a matter, the one that is being swept under the rug, the one where it is just conveniently not spoken out loud, the one where deep down inside you know what that is but afraid to vocalise it because you fear what doing so would mean to everything you hold dear, you will never be totally free. Free to do what you are meant to do in this life. We all have our purposes and dreams. But there is always something in the way. We can continually blame the lack of progress on it or we can own it, lift it up, clear the path and march right on. It is all up to us to decide if we will feel the fear and do it anyway.
To some people, starving oneself to reach the ideal weight is the way to go. All that talk about being in calorie deficit might suggest to some that perhaps doing more will produce better and ultimately faster result. Unfortunately, that basic logic would only work if the body is not a complex system in itself. Besides losing your energy, you might begin to dislike the process. And when you do something that you do not like, the motivation to stay consistent decreases day by day. The likelihood of you repeating it or maintaining it in the future is very low, unless of course the reward exceeds that. Similarly, this applies to working on any goal. You might think that just because doing something is good, you should do a lot more of it in the hopes of achieving it faster, only to realise that it is not usually the case.
Perhaps this is very basic for most of you. But for some of us, it is always a good reminder. Sometimes in a conversation, we either get over excited or we think we know better so we cut other people off while they are talking in the hopes of getting our point across, or in some cases to silence the other party because we do not agree. And then we get angry when other people do that to us. We need to remember that respect begets respect. And it is always a good thing to be the one to show respect first. So let them finish their sentences, even though you cannot wait to share what is in your mind or perhaps it is hard for you to listen because of the points that are being made. However, you will find that your point will be more accepted if you wait, acknowledge the point made by the other party and then state yours.