#SDR 1306: Learn By Trying

Dreaming and talking about what you are going to do are great for conversations and mental stimulations. But when it comes to what matters in the end, is that you did it and had given your best. There will come a time where you should put the book down, and actually try your hand at whatever it is that you say you are going to do. You will likely fail the first few tries. And that is what we want. To fail fast, so that you can learn what are the right things to do to eventually succeed. Acquire knowledge. Read widely. Listen with intent. But do not just stop there. Take the leap and learn by trying.

 

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#SDR 1305: Your Life Is Defined By The Memories You Make

Sometimes it takes a tragedy or an unpleasant event to happen to make us realise what truly counts in the end. There are many people who will do whatever they can to stay alive and increase their lifespan not realising that focusing their energy too much on that takes away the opportunities to make wonderful memories at that same time. It is not an either or matter. But we need to remind ourselves that our lives are defined by the memories we make, not how long we live. The irony of wanting to live long so as to experience more is just too clear here. So always remind ourselves to be grateful for what we already have, do our best to allow our body and mind to experience a great life by taking care of them and be in the moment.

 

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#SDR 1304: Ask The Right Person For Your Question

While anyone can give you an advice, it does not mean that you should take it. Not everyone can give you the advice that you need for the specific question that you are asking. Not everyone has the ability or experience to adequately or effectively help you with that particular issue or problem that you have at that moment. So be very mindful who you share your troubles or grievances with. Just because you are close to that person does not mean that you should pour your heart and soul to him or her. Although they are likely to have your best interest, they might not be properly equip to help you with that specific issue you are dealing with. That is why you have coaches, consultants and professional experts who you can refer to for your respective questions. So ask the right person for your question. If you do not know where to start, ask for recommendations. Someone might just know someone who can help with your situation.

 

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#SDR 1303: Appeasing Others At Your Expense Is One That You Are Likely To Regret

To anyone who is on the journey to a better self, working on achieving personal goals and dreams, nothing throws you off or slows you down like appeasing others. When you give in to external pressures, although it might seem like not much at first, the likelihood of you doing something similar again is very likely. There will then come a point where it will all eventually hurt you for continuously doing so. And at that time, to regret would be the only thing left to do. It definitely is not an admirable position to be in. So how then do you navigate the social and emotional blackmail that might be attached to you having to accede to or satisfy the demands and pressures?

Firstly, establish if that “blackmail” is real. More often than not, we like to assume the worst of others. Not that everyone is good but we need to separate them from those with ill intent.

Secondly, seek to understand where the other party is coming from. This will allow you to be more confident of your personal stance and actions. Having a clear conscience helps to dispel the social and emotional blackmail that comes with the request.

Finally, understand that it is okay to not please everyone, especially if it is going to hurt you if you were to do so. When all is said and done, you have to be at peace with yourself.

So if you value yourself and perhaps your sanity even, politely but firmly say “no” to those that do not share your values. The short-term gain is short-lived at best.

 

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#SDR 1302: Make Failure Your Badge Of Honour

To many, failure is something that must be avoided at all cost but what if the attitude towards it changes? What if instead of avoiding it because we have been told that it is something bad, we embrace it instead? Imagine how robust society would become. When failure is celebrated, more dreams would be achieved. Simply because the idea of risk has a different meaning now. More people would want to attempt to do something great, even if they had to fail many times at it, because not doing so would then be seen as something negative. Status quo would be celebrating the “risk takers” while they are at it, not when they have finally achieve the success. The world would be a much different place. Sure, mechanisms have to be put in a place to enable this. The idea of social norms would have to be redefined. But our progress and advancements would be greatly accelerated. So if you cannot change the policies and society at large right now, perhaps you want to start in your immediate circle of influence or even with yourself for that matter. Accumulate as many failure badges as possible. The more of those you own, the more closer you are to your dreams and goals.

 

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#SDR 1301: Master Your Day

The time you have in this life is a gift. It will not last forever so please make the best use of it. Each day is an opportunity for you to do the things that will allow you to achieve your goals and dreams so master your day. Set yourself a schedule. Add in all the planned meetings and events in it. If you are serious about it, add in your eating, sleeping and any other miscellaneous activities into your calendar. Do your best to abide by it. When someone comes to you to take some time off of you, be firm and politely schedule the person appropriately. It will be weird at first but do it anyway. Eventually you will get use to it and people will begin to respect you and your time. Have adequate rest and watch your diet and fitness. They too have a large effect on how you go about your day. Note that your schedule will change as you will figure out better ways to schedule your day. Just simply adapt. Do everything you can to give yourself the winning edge.

 

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#SDR 1300: Is There A Better Way To Do This?

We have always been taught of a certain way to do things. That to change the way things have been is a waste of time and perhaps even discouraged in some instances. To keep things as they are is a way for some people to keep their jobs and even power. Doing so however impedes progress of the people and the world at large. Innovations are always being done somewhere in the world to improve our lives and that should not be feared. It should instead be embraced. New ways of doing things or norms will emerge due to the innovation or some would say disruption. That in fact is the hallmark of being human. That we are built to adapt and that we can do so very effectively. So be bold and always ask the question – “is there a better way to do this?”

 

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