I know the feeling you get when you feel like taking that step that you know is right for you but you fear that you have to give up or lose something in return. That you will lose an important part of you that you have been conditioned to accept all this while. Only to realise once you do so that what you eventually let go off was never meant to be a part of you and that it just made what was important more obvious. So feel that energy that is guiding you to the path that you are meant to be, embrace it fully and step into that direction. Always remember that your history do not make you who you are, it just got you to where you are right now.
What if the presence of blood does not mean pain? What if the seemingly bottomless pit from a high ground does not mean death? What if the programming that we went through as we grew up was the other way round? That the presence of blood is just a red liquid that comes out from a body. That the seemingly bottomless pit appears so because of the limitation of our sight. That everything does not have meaning until we are either taught to or form our own on them. What a life would one lead with that sense of power? Imagine how you would be with that realisation. The way you carry yourself. The way you speak. The actions you would take. Such power. How powerful you can be.
We all know that our time is precious and that it is irreplaceable. However, very few of us treats it like so. We give it out freely like some cheap candy, attending to whoever requests for it at any given time, only to realise at the end of the day how that has left very little time for yourself and your goals. But even after realising that, most people repeat it all over again the next day. Until you learn to respect yourself, essentially that means your time, you will find yourself in the same cycle over and over again. To break out of it, you need to teach people to respect your time. Do not be afraid to say “no” and instead tell them when are the right timings for you. You might feel uncomfortable at first. That is only natural. Do it often enough and it will be like second nature.
Whatever it is that you want to achieve or are passionate about, stop wasting time by playing it small or “testing the water”. Instead, get committed. That is how you truly achieve anything in life. One could say that he or she is not sure if that is the right move but wants to experiment. While that is fair, you wouldn’t really get anything out of it, at least one that is of substance. How is it that something that is done half-heartedly gets a full assessment? It just does not make sense. If you are already interested, trust your instinct, go all out. Get committed. Your decision might work out for you or probably not. If the latter holds true, then you would not be left with any lingering thoughts of “should haves” and “could haves” to hold you back from moving forward.
Remember this, just because you think you know some things, that you are privy to insider knowledge or that you have a whole lot of abbreviations to your name or that you have a fancy grand title, does not mean that you know everything. Sure, you might claim yourself as an expert or that someone or some group of people may have given you that label but no one can know everything. For that reason alone, it just does not make any sense to be a pessimist because to do so requires a concrete proof, beyond a doubt to arrive to that conclusion. So if you cannot do that, then choose to be optimistic. Your life will certainly be more brighter and you never know what opportunities might arise because of that positive energy. Unless of course, you have an airtight case against it.
The only way forward if you ever find yourself in the occasional rut, is to not stay still but to press on. It is very easy to be paralysed by the absence of not knowing what to do. That sick feeling of frustration welling up inside is not to be fed further. Stop dwelling in it or your incapability of moving from that situation and instead begin as quickly as you can to ask more questions. Vocalising these questions will set some egos ablaze but that is how you get out of the situation. It is okay to not know all the answers and be right all the time. It takes more courage to admit that you do not know something and ask about it. Those who are too tight-lipped to ask questions especially when they are stuck are simply catastrophes waiting to happen.
Everybody have problems in their life. The size might differ but the bottom line is the same, we are all searching for solutions to our problems. If you can help to solve them, you might just be what they need. Perhaps you do not know what are other people’s problems, you feel shy and awkward to ask, so start with easy – ask yourself what are your problems. Have you got the solutions to them? If you do, you might find that other people could benefit from it too because problems are most of the time not exclusively gifted to only one particular person. So open your eyes and minds. Start to identify problems around you and think about what can be done to solve them. If you can help others be successful, you will be successful. It just a matter of time.